In-class Thinking Cap #149
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I seek to be a peer/mentor for civil society by not only helping empower folks to achieve their goals, but also aspire to hold people I chat about professional development with to truly helping civil society if they've expressed that that's a priority for them in their life. For example, a lot of my friends want to dismantle the nature of oppressive closed source tools, but end up working for big companies in order to make a livable wage. So, I think my role in addition to supporting my friends in the pursuit of their dreams is also holding them accountable to their values. The act of stating my problem definitely brought out insights about way the I think so frequently in extremes! My partner reminded me that I don't always have to think in a binary form- I can still be involved in communities without taking on an all-consuming leadership role. I hadn't considered the way I was functioning in an all-or-nothing thinking model, which is what my partner helped me be more conscious of. I like asking questions, so it wasn't difficult to avoid giving advice! I also just saw the sentence designation; apologies that this went over LOL. |
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Verbalizing my problem allowed me to contextualize the issue I've been running into, the act of which helped me to see my problem more holistically. My partner asked very thought-provoking questions which made me think more extensively about different aspects of my survey I hadn't considered in relation to my problem. It was difficult not to frame my feedback as advice at some points, however, asking questions helped me to understand the problems at hand from a different perspective! I seek to be a peer/mentor for civil society by keeping ethics in mind and remembering to encourage/practice accessibility and accountability. |
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I hope to be a peer or a mentor for civil society by talking to my community and listening to their concerns first (instead of providing advice right away) in order to try to empathize with them and let them know that I am hear their voices. The simple act of stating my problem brought a lot of insights! I explained to my partner that I wasn't sure how to implement parts of my project and he asked questions about my current approach and things that I would do differently, so that I can come up with different and new ideas myself. When I was the mentor, it was really difficult preventing myself from giving advice because I want to help them with their problem, but I think listening to their line of thinking is most important. |
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How do you seek to be peers and/or mentors for civil society? Did the simple act of stating your problem out loud bring any insights? Did your partner bring anything up that you had not considered? Was it difficult to avoid giving advice? |
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I seek to be a peer/mentor for civil society by showing up for my community members! In my conversation, the first problem that came up was one that we both related to! Though no concrete solution or answer was reached, I think the mere act of voicing a challenge one is facing, as well as listening actively and compassionately, validating the other person, helps foster a culture of interdependence between members of civil society in which there is mutual learning, growth, and fulfillment. Since I personally try not to give too much advice to folks who come to me with problems, unless they're seeking it out, it wasn't too much of a challenge for me to avoid doing so. I know that sometimes it may be less than helpful, make people feel unheard, it takes away an opportunity for them to find the solution for themselves. However, I could see the challenges with trying to avoid giving advice, especially when it comes to more technical problems that come up when coding or developing software/tech. Regardless, having someone talk me through their thought process, goals, and obstacles faced, is usually a helpful way to go to get the ball rolling! |
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How do you seek to be peers and/or mentors for civil society? Was it difficult to avoid giving advice? |
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When someone shares one of their issues with me, I always do my best to ask questions to them to make sure that I am understanding correctly. To be an active listener requires that you often times repeat the issue back to them, and making sure that all their concerns are being identified by me. In the arena of civil society, we identify equity and desires of local knowledge systems as foundations for a horizontal dialogue/conversation on how we can plan further. This looks like being facilitators, not owners, of the knowledge that's shared in our position as mentors. |
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Was it difficult to avoid giving advice? Yes, it was difficult for me to avoid giving advice. I have a bad habit of immediately trying to identify solutions when people share problems/struggles with me without first considering that they may have just wanted to have a space to share their feelings and not to have them get "solved." "Do you need to vent or do you need advice?" is probably something I should ask more. During the exercise, I caught myself about to give advice and reframed it as a question. My partner said that questions helped him figure out a solution on his own, and for that I am glad! |
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Stating my problem out load can bring some insight for me, as I had to find the right word to convey what my problem is while providing the right amount of background. With this, it helped me think critically and narrow down the problem scope. It benefitted both me and listener to understand what is the core problem that I tried to solve. |
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Did your partner bring anything up that you had not considered? |
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It was not hard for me to not give advice, and my partner definitely helped me out by sharing new perspectives and ideas. I think the spirit of collaboration that was ingrained in this conversation is necessary and that's how we move towards a civil society. Being ina. civil society means that we consistently challenge each other to be better by bringing in new ideas and actively listening to one another. Without the act of listening, there is so much that we lose out on. |
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Did the simple act of stating your problem out loud bring any insights? Was it difficult to avoid giving advice? |
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Stating my problem didn’t help me realize anything new, but it helped put my problem into perspective so that it became less intimidating. While we didn’t have any “aha!” moments, knowing that someone else had a similar problem did help me feel like I was on the right track. It was a little difficult to avoid giving advice, but this ended up forcing me to consider the problem more deeply and from more angles than if I had tried to immediately jump to a solution. I feel like this type of interaction is helpful when we’re trying to contribute to civil society, because it’s focused on the process of finding something new/helpful rather than the end goal, which can help reduce frustration and help you consider alternate approaches to a project. |
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Did your partner bring anything up that you had not considered? Yes. After I shared my problem, my partner would ask a series of questions that would lead and build up to a solution that wasn't simply given away but formed as I answered the questions. I think the questions my partner asked were thought-provoking enough to stir new ideas to solve the problem that I have. Funny thing is that my partner and I have similar problems so we both actually helped ourselves come to a solution of creating daily goals in order to feel satisfied going to bed. |
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I see being a peer and a mentor as one of the, if not the most impactful thing you can do as a member of civil society. Our interpersonal relationships are one of the areas we can exert the greatest influence/make the greatest change, and I believe that being an active peer and mentor is an absolutely essential part of social justice. Some of my favorite words to live by (that I learned from a mentor!) are that we lift as we climb--as we empower ourselves, we have a duty to empower others. |
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Was it difficult to avoid giving advice? I felt like it was a bit difficult to avoid giving advice because I'm really used to trying to solve problems right away instead of trying to lead someone to come up with their own answer. I had to really think about the question I wanted to ask, and I had to make sure that my questions would lead them down a useful path of contemplation. This also forced me to really focus on what my partner was thinking, as I needed to fully understand the problem in order to ask questions in regards to it. |
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I seek to be a peer/mentor for civil society by contributing to the empowerment of people and provide and open and safe space for everyone within the community. From there, I also want to create the assurance that their voices will be heard and listened to is and will always remain a priority within the space. Lastly, I want to emphasize that this space is also overall opportunity for people to grow together where all insights and thoughts are welcome! Side note: so sorry for late submissions,,,,it's been a time right now LOL |
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How do you seek to be peers and/or mentors for civil society?
Did the simple act of stating your problem out loud bring any insights?
Did your partner bring anything up that you had not considered?
Was it difficult to avoid giving advice?
Respond to ANY or all of the prompts above in 2-3 sentences.
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